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Equality/Non-violence Wheel – Understanding an Equal Relationship

This is a diagram that shows the aspects of a healthy, equal relationship:


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Equality/Non-Violence Wheel

Non -Threatening Behaviour

  • Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.


  • Listening to her non-judgmentally
  • Being emotionally affirming and understanding
  •  Valuing opinions

Trust and support

  • Supporting her goals in life
  • Repecting her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions

Honesty and accountability

  • accepting responsibility for self
  • acknowledging past use of violence
  • admitting being wrong
  • communicating openly and truthfully

Responsible parenting

  • Sharing parental responsibilities
  • Being positive non-violent role model for the children
  • Share responsibility
  • mutually agreeing on fair distribution of work
  • making family decisions together

Economic partnership

  • Making money decisions together
  • Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements

Negotiation and fairness

  • Seeking mutually satisfying resolution to conflict
  • accepting change
  • being willing to compromise